Saturday, May 18, 2013

20/52



'A portrait of my children, once a week, every week in 2013.'

Ronan: He is forever hungry, probably due to all of the jumping around he does; like the time he jumped on the couch, slipped and hit his eye on the corner of the coffee table. Can you see it?

Finnian: This kid is going to cause me many stresses when he is a teen...I just know it. 


Linking up with Jodi.


Sunday, May 12, 2013

learning to be a mother


Each day, my children teach me many things. They teach me what it means to love unconditionally. After I watch them argue with one another, I then see them 'make up' and I remember to forgive and forget. They teach me patience, or at least, they expose my weaknesses and remind me to work on improving myself. Because of them, I have learnt more about myself, and found a very clear purpose - To love.

Along my motherhood journey, I have often thought about other mothers, and learnt great things from them;

A friend who sits at her little boy's side, day in, and day out. The same friend who hasn't been home since before Christmas last year, because she has been in the NICU ward. A mother, who is so strong, so brave, so dedicated to her child. A mother who knows a loss that no mother should know. A mother who smiles, and cares, and asks about others, even though her burdens are so great.

A nan, who had five boys and who loved all of her ten grandchildren and thirteen great-grand children with such a fierce love. A hard working mother, and house wife, and dress maker. A beautiful spirit and soul; one I remember daily, and miss with all of my heart.

My own beautiful mother, who loved us, and still loves us, so dearly, so tenderly...with so much selflessness and consideration. My only memories of my mother, from my childhood, are filled with fun, adventure and love. My mum was a fun mum. She made time for us and I know she loved being our mum.

So I am learning, and I will continue to do so for the rest of my life. Being a mother isn't easy, but I will strive to be a patient, dedicated, loving mother for my children; and I hope they will always know that I love being their mum.



Saturday, May 11, 2013

19/52



'A portrait of my children, once a week, every week in 2013'

Finnian: Having the time of his life.
Ronan: I see you!



Thursday, May 9, 2013

why i don't like being labelled


Here are some labels:
  • Straight, Bisexual, A-Sexual, Homosexual, Gay.
  • Vegan, Vegetarian, Rawist, Fruitarian.
  • Australian, Irish, English, Scottish, Canadian, American, African-American.
  • Autistic, Asperger's, OCD, ADD, ADHD, PDD.
  • Liberal. Democrat, 'Greenie', Labour, Family Party, Shooters and Fishers Party (?!?) 
  • Home school, public school, private school, natural learning, un-schooling.
  • Atheist, Jewish, Mormon, Agnostic, Buddhist, Christian - (Anglican, Uniting, Evangelical, Methodist, Pentecostal, Assembly Of God, Salvation Army, Presbyterian; The list goes on!)
There is so much grey matter in each of these labels
Why do we humans feel the need to categorise ourselves? Is it so we feel we belong? 
Are there not scales for all of these things? Could we all not be within some grey area for each?
Life is not black and white. It is full of colour, and diversity.

Here are some generalisations for you...
  • I am married, so therefore I am straight.
  • I was born in Australia, so therefore I am Australian. 
  • I have OCD tendencies, which means I fit somewhere on the Autism Spectrum, so therefore I am Autistic. 
  • I dislike politics but lean towards some of the Greens ideals, so therefore I am a 'Greenie.'
  • I attended public school and teach in public schools, so therefore I am a public school advocate (who believes that I have learnt just as important lessons 'out' of the classroom, than I have in it. I believe 'home schooling' and 'natural learning' is something that happens for all children, regardless of where they attend 'school' 9am - 3pm each day... What does that make me? 
  • I go to church on most Sundays, so therefore I am a Christian.  (I believe there is something greater than I, and I also believe Evolution and God can go hand-in-hand... but I dislike the label 'Christian' - it is exclusive - and don't even get me started on making myself try to 'fit' into one of the many denominations... What does that make me?

Strip away the labels, take me out of a box, and get to know the real me, without the pre-emptive generalisations. 

Labels seem to cause more harm than good. They create stereotypes. 
They cause arguments and hatred and wars

So I challenge you...

Why not just BE? 
I am who I am.
I believe what I believe.
Strip away the labels and let me be ME.